Welcome to Step 1 of the D.R.E.A.M.S. System!
The Chinese tell us that a journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. Well your first step on your journey to success lies in gaining a better understanding of a much over-used and often misunderstood word – DESIRE.
Desire is our starting pint on this journey and once you know how to utilize this emotional “gift” I assure you, you will be 50% on your way to success and will have already entered into the top 2% achievers on this planet.
Understanding DesireIn order to achieve anything in life, big or small, you must have a desire to achieve that thing. Every action you take begins with a simple desire.
It is the desire to have a cup of coffee that motivates you to put the kettle on or visit a coffee shop. The desire to satiate your hunger drives you to seek food. Even the desire to sustain your life gets you out of bed every day and forces you to go to work.
Truly everything you do is driven by desire.
However, if you wish to achieve your goals you must embrace a very specific type of desire.
We are often told to go after what we want and avoid going after things that we do not really desire. However, as I have already explained everything we do is driven by desire.
For example setting a goal to follow a specific career path that your parents want for you is pursuing a desire because you have a desire to please your parents and/or not disappoint them. This is where many people get caught up.
However, to achieve all your goals easily and attain happiness at the same time the above mentioned desire it is not the type of desire you should pursue.
Not only will it not lead to a feeling of desire-fulfillment but 9 times out of 10 it will lead to unhappiness, frustration and depression.
What’s more it is unlikely you will achieve any real success at that particular field or career because you will not have a burning desire to succeed and will most likely lack motivation to succeed.
The same holds true for any goal you set not just in your career. It applies to relationships, lifestyle, life choices etc.
Likewise it is important to avoid falling into the “settling” trap. Don’t avoid setting a goal just because you think you are not capable of achieving it. The simple truth is that if you are capable of wanting it then you are capable of having it.
What is a Burning Desire?Before answering this question let’s take a look at the word desire.
Wikipedia tells us that, “Desire is a sense of longing or hoping for a person, object, or outcome.”
Re-read that description one more time please and pay close attention to the words “… a sense of longing or hoping”.
When Buddha told us that desire is the cause of all suffering we can see what he meant by looking closely at this commonly held view of desire as outlined by Wikipedia.
Buddha may have spoken of desire as being the cause of suffering but a better translation would be the word “covet”. To covet something is to lust after it. So the word “desire” in Budhha’s statement can actually be replaced with a phrase that suits modern English language usage much better; “to lust”.
If we replace the word “desire” with the phrase “to lust” Budhha’s meaning becomes a lot clearer. After all surely desire itself cannot be intrinsically bad or it wouldn’t be a natural part of our biological make-up.
In fact it was desire that lead Buddha on his quest for enlightenment and it was that same desire that helped him achieve it!
Just as the bible tells us not to covet (meaning lust after) our neighbor’s goods and not to covet our neighbor’s wife, Buddha has told us that the state of coveting (lusting) leads to unhappiness.
Lust is the cause of all suffering.
As we can see the problem with lust is not that it is sinful, shameful or wrong. The problem with lust is that it implies we are in a state of wanting something really badly yet not really believing that we can have it.
Obviously this state will lead to suffering!
Therefore this is not the type of desire you want to incorporate into your goal setting. The type of desire you want to use to help you achieve your goals is not a lustful desire but a burning desire.
When you pursue a objective that is based on something that you truly want it is easy to see yourself in possession of it; your mind does this naturally. When you take that desire and turn it into a solid, concrete, definable goal you move from the realms of lust into the reams of possibility.
Therefore you should look at desire in a totally new way from now on. Look at it as follows:
A burning desire is a sense of anticipation of having a person, attaining an object, or achieving an outcome.
A Burning Desire is Not ImpatientMany people mistakenly think that having a burning desire means you are constantly in a grabbing state; like the girl from the original Willy Wonka & The Chocolate Factory movie.
However, a burning desire is quite the opposite of this type of “immediate gratification” yearning.
A burning desire is akin to a red hot poker. It is not dancing with flames but has a constant heat and glow. This is the way your desire should be; always constant and always intense but in a consistent and calm way.
You need do nothing to create this type of state other than to go after what you truly want.
There is literally nothing you need to do to acquire a burning desire. When you set a goal to achieve something that you truly want to achieve you will be in the natural “burning desire” state!
Do not concern yourself with the details of how you will achieve that desire. Just enjoy the feelings you have when you dwell on images of having the desire manifest in your life (which will happen naturally just by thinking about it).
Setting a GoalAt any one time I have between 3 to 5 goals. Usually these goals are intertwined with one and other. For example I may want a 3% conversion rate on a particular website while at the same time wanting it to be in the number 1 spot on Google for a specific search phrase. Although these are 2 separate goals they are linked.
Sometimes all of my goals are completely independent of one and other.
For your first experiment at using this powerful D.R.E.A.M.S. System I want you to focus on just 1 goal.
By having only 1 goal it will be easier for you to practice each step and you will see results much quicker. Once you have achieved a few goals feel free to work on several at any one time: but for now pick just 1 desire that is close to your heart.
Make sure this goal is a desire for something that you truly want and not something you think you should want or that someone else wants for you.
Do not concern yourself with how you will achieve this goal at this point. Your only job right now is to pick something that you truly desire and it doesn’t matter how improbable it seems nor how impossible you think it is for you to achieve it.
There is one caveat however: the desire and the goal you set for yourself based on that desire must be possible at least in theory. Don’t try to change the laws of physics!
Although there are obvious exceptions to this (don’t expect to run a 4 minute mile if you have 1 leg and are about to turn 79 years old) but a good rule of thumb is as follows: as long as it is possible for 1 human being to do it then it is safe to set it as a goal for yourself.
Using Your DesireNow you know how to use desire.
Spend the next day or 2 contemplating exactly what you want to achieve first using this process. Then set it as a goal.
This is a vital step in the entire 6 step process. If you do not set a goal based on a desire that is true to your heart you will fail in steps 3, 5 & 6.
When you set a goal that is close to your heart you will find that the remaining steps in this process are like child’s play and you will be amazed at the speed at which you start getting what you want from life.
In the next section you will learn how to restructure your habitual thinking so you start attracting the people, situations and material objects you need to attain your goal.
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- D.R.E.A.M.S. – A Proven Goal Getting Process
- Step 1: Desire
- Step 2: Restructure
- Step 3: Emotionalize
- Step 4: Action
- Step 5: Mastery
- Step 6: Subconscious
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